Sanity – Non Omnis Moriar https://www.nonomnismoriar.org Tue, 06 Mar 2012 22:58:02 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.1 https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=2538 https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=2538#respond Thu, 01 Mar 2012 22:57:12 +0000 http://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=2538 The following day, I attended a workshop about preventing gender violence, facilitated by Katz. There, he posed a question to all of the men in the room: “Men, what things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?”

Not one man, including myself, could quickly answer the question. Finally, one man raised his hand and said, “Nothing.” Then Katz asked the women, “What things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?” Nearly all of the women in the room raised their hand. One by one, each woman testified:

“I don’t make eye contact with men when I walk down the street,” said one.
“I don’t put my drink down at parties,” said another.
“I use the buddy system when I go to parties.”
“I cross the street when I see a group of guys walking in my direction.”
“I use my keys as a potential weapon.”

The women went on for several minutes, until their side of the blackboard was completely filled with responses. The men’s side of the blackboard was blank. I was stunned. I had never heard a group of women say these things before. I thought about all of the women in my life — including my mother, sister and girlfriend — and realized that I had a lot to learn about gender.

(From why I am a male feminist, by way of Neil)

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How To Get Calm In A World Full Of Crazy https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=155 https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=155#respond Fri, 11 Nov 2011 00:49:47 +0000 http://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=155

Some good advice from Gala Darling on how to snag some serenity. Many thanks to Bloodmilk for the link!

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You Have Everything You Need https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=473 https://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=473#respond Sun, 28 Nov 2010 14:13:07 +0000 http://www.nonomnismoriar.org/?p=473 I had a weird moment on the way home from Yo Gabba Gabba on Friday. We were driving home through Echo Park, and we passed a home-printed artsy handbill that was plastered to the side of a pole. There was a picture of a bear’s head in the middle of it, and the text surrounding it read, “You Have Everything You Need”. I know this sounds silly, but it really impacted me. I looked over at my wonderful husband, and I listened to my daughter sing in the back seat. I thought about my family and my friends, and I thought about.. well, I guess I thought about me for a moment. I have my loved ones, and I have me. Whatever may come, I have what matters. I have everything I need.

How strange to be so empowered by a handbill.

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